Imperfectly Perfect
They say imperfect people make the perfect role models and I agree, so why am I striving to be the perfect wife, mother and career person? In fact, I 100% know it’s an unattainable goal, so why do I kill myself trying to achieve perfection? Could it be the athlete in me thats been nurtured since the age of five to believe practice makes perfect? Or is it the thousands of filters I can add to my face on Instagram and Snapchat to achieve any desired look? It’s for sure the images of perfection I see on a daily basis of beautiful spotless marble kitchen counters and spick and span play areas all over social media. Or the idealistic lives celebrities portray until they end up in a scandal or in rehab.
So I was a guest on the Tamron Hall Show where we explored the need for perfection further and I’ve come up with three reasons personally why I find myself striving for perfection in the areas of wife, mother and career. Danica Patrick tapped into an idea that we are most unhappy with things in others that we are most unhappy with ourselves. Exploring that further I’ve come up with the following.
Wife- The “ideal” role of wife will keep me married. My parents divorced after 30+ years together. If I do everything idealistically that wife does, cook, clean and keep my husband happy w'e’ll make it last forever.
Mom- I want to raise Kinsley to be kind, smart and and happy. Everyday I’m just doing my best to ensure she does.
Career- I want to be an example to my daughter that she can be a career woman, chasing her dreams and goals and still have a happy family life.
The reality is in balancing all these things, one or more of these roles will not be tended to at 100% everyday and that is something I have to learn to be at ease with.
In the words of Mama Elaine, ‘ease up Nat!’
What drives you to strive for perfection? In what areas are you most concerned with being perfect in your life?
Let’s talk about it in the comments.
Love ya, Mean it,